DESIRE HAPPINESS: GO GET IT
Background
Happiness is one state which most
of us desire but are unaware of exactly what is it or how to chase and stay
with it?
Can one be in a state of happiness or is it
temporary phenomenon?
Some of the popular views of happiness are
Absence
of desire- easier said than doing it
Living the moment- grand as concept
but implementation difficult
Some suggested means to achieve happiness are
Meditation including religious
gatherings
Helping the helpless- social work
Hobbies including reading/writing
Creative activity arts/crafts
Be amongst happy people
Festivities- dance/sing/make merry
Adventure sports
Travelling and exploring
Nature Teach
Can anyone be happy all by himself?
The answer probably is NO. Look at the nature, flora/fauna; all animals live,
survive and flourish by being in social groups. In the wild survival implies –
adequacy of food, reproducing; warding of serious threats. It would be fair to
deduce that we are engineered to survive and grow amongst our kind.
Planning the Journey of Life
Groupings depend on the best
environs which enables growth of individual and his clan. Starting from basic
needs of survival, human needs keep growing continuously. Growth trajectory
generally moves from basics to wealth through material collections and finally
achieving excellence in the chosen field, it comes to giving back. For some who
take a journey along spiritual/social roads, creation of wealth/materialistic
gains is secondary; this community gets into humanity service by numerous means
at their disposal. Those joining political field have similar stated aim though
it for some it may be nice guise to get wealthy. Still others combine the
love/passion to meet peoples need whilst making money. For some, use of
violence to undo perceived wrong is sanctified and acceptable road to social
service to the community/religion.
Are then happiness success
milestones along the chosen path? When the community recognises, good deed and
commends the individual, its success and temporary happiness. Having achieved
this, one moves to the next milestone along the journey and same process
continues. It would thus be fair to assume intermediate successes along the
journey are a source of happiness. And failures? Cause unhappiness; depression
and may cascade as suicides.
It would be fair to deduce that
happiness or unhappiness is temporary emotive state of mind which flow from
success/failure along the chosen path of life’s journey. One needs well-wishers
to appreciate and share these moments. They act as motivator to continue along
the journey to greater heights/ renewed effort to overcome failure.
Parents and children grow older but
towards different stages. Children are starting the journey to achieve their
dreams and parents finishing and one somewhere midway. Keeping the three generations
comfortable, balanced and happy is the greatest challenge due to varying demands
but that’s the challenge
Way Ahead
Choose the ultimate aim before
starting the journey amongst own well-wishers. Identify the milestones along
with timelines. Consult guides; counsellors; peers; parents and anyone else of
significance in your scheme of things
Commence
journey with complete passion by ensuring milestones achieved within decided
timeframes. Celebrate success and midcourse correction if required by
consulting same people or experts for guidance/suggestions.
Reset milestones if deemed
appropriate.
During the journey ensure near and
dear ones part of the process and journey is based on values as enshrined
for/by you. Any compromise will always make the success tainted.
Good health; adequate wealth;
friends and family; quality time and relationships with self and family;
reasonable social life are essential for memorable journey for everyone
including all significant others. Only then will milestones will shower immense
happiness and make journey totally pleasurable.
Keeping the three generations
comfortable, balanced and happy is the greatest challenge but most satisfying too
and non-negotiable. Having finished the journey, starts the give back time. Give
back whatever you can- knowledge; happiness; empowerment; smile. Money is least
important of them all
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